Being a single parent - of either gender - brings with it a set of challenges and rewards that play a part in the lives of millions of people. A lot of solo mothers, particularly young mothers, may ask themselves if their kids from a previous relationship will hinder them from meeting the perfect man and getting established in the future.
Yes, men are going to date women with children. Having kids will not scare most men away.
Single moms have a lot of qualities that single men like. Below are 3 reasons why men date women with kids.
If a woman is worried that her children from a previous relationship might ruin her chances of finding a good man, they should relax, because most men don't care, and those who don't care about children from previous relationships are probably more willing to commit to a relationship than men who don't care.
A man's ability to put aside his adult problems and share the limited but imaginative world of children with them for a while says a lot about the man, especially about his level of personal responsibility, empathy, and selflessness.
Because a mother has had a child, she is more mature and patient. Single mothers are not looking to go out to clubs or bars every Saturday night.
They appreciate a nice dinner and a movie at home, something a woman without children cannot do.
Successful men aren't looking for a needy wife. Most single moms have a dynamic career, bring up great kids, and enjoy a busy social life. To a man with a great life too, this is like catnip.
A successful Russian single mom demonstrates to a man that there is no threat to his life, freedom, or social status, and that is what makes single moms hot. If you claim respect for "women's work" at home by expecting it to be shared, you automatically claim respect for "women's work" in the rest of the world.
Single mothers, in the vast majority, are used to being rejected by men after telling them that they already have a child. That's just the way it is - men are afraid of such information and withdraw. And often that's why they don't even try to get to know them better.
Single mothers usually have a big advantage over other women - even if she says no, most men will still try to ask her again. She has proven what qualities and characteristics she has, and that is almost always enough for the next invitation.
Most single moms are good at dating because they are so used to relationships that it becomes a habit for them. They can be picky when it comes to choosing their soulmate, but once they find someone who suits them, they don't waste time with him/her either. All of this makes single moms fun to date!
When you're in search of a partner, single moms are probably among them. Worldwide, the highest number of children in the U.S. live in single-parent households, especially those run by single mothers, according to a study by the Pew Research Center.
Single moms bring unique perspectives, preferences, and life experiences to the table - and this can make them great partners. They're often skilled, bright, flexible, and understand what they're after in a relationship. Find out here what to do when dating a woman with children - and ways to move your connection to the next level while staying committed too soon.
She has someone depending on her alone. The baby grew inside her, she gave birth to it, she fed it, and she nurtured it every step of the way. You're a guy she just met, maybe at a bar, maybe on a dating website. Even if she's been friends with you for years. Which one do you think she'll choose when she has to?
This is not to say that you will be upstaged when dating a girl with kids, but your ego needs to be strong enough to share her attention.
Never put a woman with kids in a situation where it's "me or the kid." We know some of the female matchmakers have started dating a man who has a child and then complained that the child always took priority over her. Oh, don't be that kind of person!
She has a 2-year-old little girl who is very close to her heart. If you suggest going to Coachella with or without her daughter this weekend, it won't go over well.
Instead, say, "I've been thinking about what we could do this weekend, and after you've fed Katy breakfast and the babysitter has come by, how about we go to the State Fair for a day? We could ride some rides, take pictures of the animals to show Katy later, eat lots of food, and play some games. That way I can win some prizes for you and her to take home, and we should be able to bring you back when she goes to bed."
The fact that you not only thought and planned, but also made sure that your daughter was the center of attention during these plans, proves what a great man you are.
If she is a single mother, there is a good chance that this is not how she envisioned her life. Maybe the father left, maybe they divorced, or maybe she's a widow. In any case, she put her full trust in someone during one of the most important events in her life, and that trust was broken, even if it was fate that took her husband away.
There are two sides to this. The first part is that you need to proceed gently and slowly. She can no longer just jump in with both feet without thinking. Just be there for her.
The second part is that you need to be trustworthy. All of us good single men think we are trustworthy, but you have to take it to the extreme. Things that can be easily overlooked or dismissed in other serious relationships (like lateness, running into an ex you didn't mention, or a few weird text messages on your phone) can be a much bigger minefield now. While it may not be rational, you need to make sure she knows that your word is good and that she can count on you as a new partner.